Peanuts Cartoon Charles Schultz

“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” Thomas Merton

I feel I am using the world balance a great deal these days.  2013 has been another roller coast of ride for me and I think that is true for many of you.  What has come up for me a great deal is balance in my life in work, play and most importantly relationships.  When I talk about balance I like to use a teeter totter as a symbol.  To me balance is not the inertia of a teeter totter with equal weight on both sides. It is about the ups and downs, sometimes you are up and merrily giving and other times you are down gratefully receiving.  The key is to keep these two number as even as possible.  I am not saying you should keep score of every up and down but it should be pretty even or you get woefully out of balance with all the consequences that can produce.  It is a good time of year to examine your relationships to judge if they are in balance and if not what we can do to change that.  We cannot change people but we can change ourselves and decide what is and is not acceptable in all our relationships.